Are Our Muslim Girls Safe?
- Umm Harris
- May 7
- 4 min read
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
Today I watched a documentary about young girls being groomed from the age of 11 — Astaghfirullāh. Allahul Mustaʿān. Listening to these girls, now in adulthood, made me realise how unprotected they truly were. Most of them were in children’s homes or simply living without boundaries — doing what they liked, not listening to their parents, and not knowing right from wrong.
It broke my heart. And I sat there thinking: If our children are not taught the difference between right and wrong — by us, the parents — then how are they safe from this?
Parenting isn’t just about rules.
It’s about teaching. About guiding. About showing them what Allah has revealed and what He loves and hates. That’s what keeps a child safe — not just fear, but knowledge and understanding.
We live in a time where abusers have so many avenues to reach our children — so many.
There’s social media, the streets, the schools… even inside the schools.
Bad friends, bad companions, out-of-school clubs, college friends, and even Islamic activities with people who aren’t upon the truth — these are all doors to misguidance.
And I realised something else:
It’s not enough to just teach them… are we also keeping an eye on them?
• Who are they associating with?
• Who are they talking to?
• Are we logged into their social media accounts?
• Do we check their phones?
• Are we aware of their interests, their online lives, their feelings?
Do they know about ḥayāʾ? About modesty and its importance?
Do they understand what it means to cover?
Do they know about Tawheed?
Do they know their Prophet ﷺ?
Do they know the lives of the righteous female companions?
And what about us?
Are we being the role models they need?
Are we spending time with them — real time — or are we letting them disappear into screens and silence?
It’s hard. I know.
I’m a mother of teens too. I feel that heaviness.
Sometimes, we just want to give them space… but that space can’t come at the cost of their lives or their religion.
We need to be close to them. We need to be firm. We need to be loving.
And most of all, we need to give them Islam.
We need to connect them to the students of knowledge and the scholars — those known for their clarity and knowledge, not online influencers with no understanding. The scholars carry wisdom, and the books that have come from them can help us through any difficulty. May Allah preserve them.
I always say: one of the best ways to protect our children is to teach them their religion.
That means:
• Studying Islam
• Knowing Tawheed
• Being linked to the people of knowledge
• Attending authentic classes
• Making sure there’s always an Islamic teacher in their life
And the other part? Friendship.
Our teens need us to befriend them before anyone else does.
They don’t need parents who are distant.
They need parents who care, who are present, and who love them with action — not just words.
We can’t leave them in bedrooms with phones and computers all day.
Allāhul Mustaʿān. That’s a doorway to so many problems.
And let me be clear: kindness and closeness doesn’t mean we let them do whatever they want.
We still have boundaries. We still have rules.
But they’re boundaries that come with love and based on the Qur’ān and Sunnah.
Even though this message is focused on our girls — this reminder is for the boys too.
They also need our love, our friendship, and our time.
We don’t need to be perfect parents.
But we do need to be trying parents.
And this is why I continue to teach our Muslim teens.
To help protect our girls, I’ve set up an Islamic Studies class for them—so they have somewhere to learn their religion properly, connect with Allah, and feel supported in a safe environment.
These classes aren’t just about worksheets or ticking boxes. They’re about building a connection between their hearts and their Lord. Helping them know who Allah is. Teaching them Tawheed and all thGuiding them to call upon Him using His Names.
Because if they know Allah, if they love Him, and if they feel close to Him—they’ll never be truly alone. Even when they’re struggling. Even when no one understands them.
This class is a safe space. A place where they can learn, reflect, and grow… while being surrounded by other Muslim girls and taught with care and sincerity.
If you feel your daughter needs this too, you’re welcome to join us.
Topics We Study in Class:
• Qur’aan & Tafseer (Understanding the meanings of verses)
• Tawheed (Islamic Monotheism and its three categories)
• Fiqh (Basic rulings of purification, prayer, etc.)
• Al-Adaab (Islamic manners and etiquettes)
• As-Seerah (The biography of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم)
• Hadeeth (Memorising and applying authentic narrations)
• Al-Adhkaar (Morning & evening duʿāʾs and other remembrances)
I also add in topics I feel are necessary for the girls to know.
The lessons are based upon what I learn from my teachers (those I mention clearly on my website), the books of the students of knowledge and the scholors. May Allah bless all of them.
Message me to see if I have availability for your child: wa.me/447883850180
May Allah make us the best role models.
May He protect our children.
May He keep them firm upon the truth and close to Him.
Āameen.
Love,
Umm Harris
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